Comments for AC's Recovery and Healing Blog http://recoverandheal.com Recover and Heal (www.recoverandheal.com) will provide on-line recovery resources and information that help people in their recovery from family dysfunction, adult children of alcoholics, food addiction, anger, and co-dependency. Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:10:32 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Hero Today, Gone to Recovery Tomorrow….. by restoringheart http://recoverandheal.com/2010/02/09/hero-today-gone-to-recovery-tomorrow%e2%80%a6/#comment-43 restoringheart Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:10:32 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=128#comment-43 Great description about how recovery and change can affect all parties. It can be so difficult to truly change when others in your life don't want you to, and it is tough on them if they are dependent on you or want you to be that hero. It sounds like you have come such a long way! I hope that over time you will be able to have happier and healthier relationships with those in your life and they will accept and love you for who you are now. Keep up that hard work! Great description about how recovery and change can affect all parties. It can be so difficult to truly change when others in your life don’t want you to, and it is tough on them if they are dependent on you or want you to be that hero.

It sounds like you have come such a long way! I hope that over time you will be able to have happier and healthier relationships with those in your life and they will accept and love you for who you are now. Keep up that hard work!

]]> Comment on Codependents version of The Greatest Commandment – Codependency and Step 1 by lost sheep http://recoverandheal.com/2010/01/30/the-greatest-commandment-codependents-version-codependency-and-step-1/#comment-42 lost sheep Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:56:37 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=117#comment-42 very well put--i am starting to realize how much co-dependency does run in my life, as well as others i know--so much easier to try and "survive' then it is to really live. very well put–i am starting to realize how much co-dependency does run in my life, as well as others i know–so much easier to try and “survive’ then it is to really live.

]]> Comment on Do You Want To Get Well by psychic web http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/07/do-you-want-to-get-well/#comment-39 psychic web Sat, 30 Jan 2010 11:06:35 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=92#comment-39 You people always have such fantastic posts to browse on your web site. I enjoy returning to check new subject matter since I now have your web site bookmarked. Thanks so much. You people always have such fantastic posts to browse on your web site. I enjoy returning to check new subject matter since I now have your web site bookmarked. Thanks so much.

]]> Comment on Forgiving vs. Forgetting by lost sheep http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/28/forgiving-vs-forgetting/#comment-36 lost sheep Wed, 30 Dec 2009 01:00:43 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=111#comment-36 great post and brings back lots of thoughts in my life, hurts, struggles with spiritual hurts---so know and understand the forgiving vs. forgetting---as well as the triggering--something i have yet been able to get over, and or deal with---as i read your blog--i often wonder and wish i guess how maybe anyone would benefit with a 12 step program---and i envy many who have the "group" and support out there--i think it is easier when you come across others who understand, and you can relate too. I just recently read a book titled The Wounded Healer by H. JM Nouwen--very good book--and talkes about how our hurts, healing, etc can help others and makes us better people, and helpers. again thanks for sharing your journey with us wen great post and brings back lots of thoughts in my life, hurts, struggles with spiritual hurts—so know and understand the forgiving vs. forgetting—as well as the triggering–something i have yet been able to get over, and or deal with—as i read your blog–i often wonder and wish i guess how maybe anyone would benefit with a 12 step program—and i envy many who have the “group” and support out there–i think it is easier when you come across others who understand, and you can relate too. I just recently read a book titled The Wounded Healer by H. JM Nouwen–very good book–and talkes about how our hurts, healing, etc can help others and makes us better people, and helpers. again thanks for sharing your journey with us
wen

]]> Comment on The Power of Boundaries, Disengaging, and Refusing to “Dance”… by restoringheart http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/22/the-power-of-boundaries-disengaging-and-refusing-to-%e2%80%9cdance%e2%80%9d%e2%80%a6/#comment-35 restoringheart Tue, 29 Dec 2009 19:51:47 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=104#comment-35 This has been on my mind a lot lately too. In fact I recently blogged about something similar but I compared it to a chess game. The hard part is getting our heart and mind set in the right place before we are faced with the dance so that we choose to pass the opportunity instead of responding out of emotion in the situation. I am learning it takes a great deal of humility, and restraint to not say what I would like to. Years ago I learned that we need to operate in the opposite spirit such as when they are angry we need to show peace, when they are impatient we need to be patient, and when they are full of malice and hostility we need to show love and grace. I have known it in the back of my head but I don't practice it enough! This has been on my mind a lot lately too. In fact I recently blogged about something similar but I compared it to a chess game.

The hard part is getting our heart and mind set in the right place before we are faced with the dance so that we choose to pass the opportunity instead of responding out of emotion in the situation. I am learning it takes a great deal of humility, and restraint to not say what I would like to. Years ago I learned that we need to operate in the opposite spirit such as when they are angry we need to show peace, when they are impatient we need to be patient, and when they are full of malice and hostility we need to show love and grace. I have known it in the back of my head but I don’t practice it enough!

]]> Comment on Hello world! by How did I lose my dreams? « What's Right With Me http://recoverandheal.com/2009/11/09/hello-world/#comment-34 How did I lose my dreams? « What's Right With Me Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:36:43 +0000 #comment-34 [...] How did I lose my dreams? December 24th, 2009 . Posted in What HappenedNo Comments »Tags: anger, beliefs, Bruce Lipton, Core Health, Forgiveness, Heart Forgiveness, human genome project, spontaneous Hi….sign me up. I never have recovered. I’m 63, live alone in the woods and still can’t function socially after several bad relationships, drug and alchohol abuse etc…Never really knew I was so screwed up until I finally quite drinking and couldn’t figure out why I was so angry all the time. Angry at everything. I still struggle with anger.Ten years ago God opened my eyes to his glory and led me to Christ. I try but I cant find any passion in me. Its like if things start going good, I will unwittingly sabotage whatever it is so that I can play the victim and justify being angry and bitter.I just wrote all this off the cuff to be brief…so thats me. Can I say it was all about my alcoholic father and mother?God has blessed me more than I deserve and little by little I think I am coming along but I don’t trust me. Bob on November 9, 2009 at 8:30 am [...] [...] How did I lose my dreams? December 24th, 2009 . Posted in What HappenedNo Comments »Tags: anger, beliefs, Bruce Lipton, Core Health, Forgiveness, Heart Forgiveness, human genome project, spontaneous Hi….sign me up. I never have recovered. I’m 63, live alone in the woods and still can’t function socially after several bad relationships, drug and alchohol abuse etc…Never really knew I was so screwed up until I finally quite drinking and couldn’t figure out why I was so angry all the time. Angry at everything. I still struggle with anger.Ten years ago God opened my eyes to his glory and led me to Christ. I try but I cant find any passion in me. Its like if things start going good, I will unwittingly sabotage whatever it is so that I can play the victim and justify being angry and bitter.I just wrote all this off the cuff to be brief…so thats me. Can I say it was all about my alcoholic father and mother?God has blessed me more than I deserve and little by little I think I am coming along but I don’t trust me. Bob on November 9, 2009 at 8:30 am [...]

]]> Comment on The Power of Boundaries, Disengaging, and Refusing to “Dance”… by lost sheep http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/22/the-power-of-boundaries-disengaging-and-refusing-to-%e2%80%9cdance%e2%80%9d%e2%80%a6/#comment-33 lost sheep Wed, 23 Dec 2009 03:42:17 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=104#comment-33 can so relate and very well put--you have such a knack in writing your thoughts and feelings---may you have a happy holiday and new year can so relate and very well put–you have such a knack in writing your thoughts and feelings—may you have a happy holiday and new year

]]> Comment on The Power of Boundaries, Disengaging, and Refusing to “Dance”… by Kim http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/22/the-power-of-boundaries-disengaging-and-refusing-to-%e2%80%9cdance%e2%80%9d%e2%80%a6/#comment-32 Kim Tue, 22 Dec 2009 13:36:18 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=104#comment-32 are you a fly on the all in my house? thanks again for writing this. are you a fly on the all in my house? thanks again for writing this.

]]> Comment on Doing something good for you by lost sheep http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/16/doing-something-good-for-you/#comment-31 lost sheep Thu, 17 Dec 2009 05:16:55 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=101#comment-31 good luck with your writing---i really enjoy reading and it inspires me----again a post that hit close to home---recently was told/called co-dependant---never really looked at myself like that---but come to realize co-dependant runs in several different ways---and once you lost yourself, hard to find again--at least i think---where do you begin??? congrats on doing such a great job wen good luck with your writing—i really enjoy reading and it inspires me—-again a post that hit close to home—recently was told/called co-dependant—never really looked at myself like that—but come to realize co-dependant runs in several different ways—and once you lost yourself, hard to find again–at least i think—where do you begin???
congrats on doing such a great job
wen

]]> Comment on Doing something good for you by Ruth Johnson http://recoverandheal.com/2009/12/16/doing-something-good-for-you/#comment-30 Ruth Johnson Wed, 16 Dec 2009 21:54:31 +0000 http://recoverandheal.com/?p=101#comment-30 Hey AC... Good article and I do understand the need to be me after many years of giving so much of myself that I lost myself. Glad you found your writing. I told "your friend" in recovery you have talent. I love a good read. God bless and keep up HIS good work! RJ Hey AC…

Good article and I do understand the need to be me after many years of giving so much of myself that I lost myself. Glad you found your writing. I told “your friend” in recovery you have talent. I love a good read. God bless and keep up HIS good work!

RJ

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